EPIC
You are very correct. Teachers are afraid. We are afraid of parents because they might complain about us or sue us. We are afraid of administrators because they might make our lives a living hell or fire us. We are afraid of the students because they go home with lies and false accusations to get the teachers in trouble. I have heard students say "I am going to get that teacher fired."
I am very tired of parents expecting teachers to do their job for them. When it came out that those 17 year old girls made a pregnancy pact, someone said, "Where were the schools when this was happening?" Schools? It isn't our job to teach sex ed, it is the parents! All of these things are parent jobs.
We should not be teaching manners, character counts, drug awareness, or any of these things. The parents should. Maybe we need parent inservices in these areas instead of teacher inservices. One of my rudest students last year had her Mom tell me in detail how polite and sweet this little brat was. Who is she kidding?
It is time to hold the parents accountable for being parents. Then maybe teachers won't have to be afraid.
I moved from a state that had a strong teacher's union to one that does not. I can tell you from my own experience that I can't believe the things that my new coworkers will put up with. My first couple of years I kept my mouth shut, but now I speak up more and more. Unfortunately I have to be very careful about how I go about that or I could be looking through the classifieds easily.
I truly believe teachers need to begin speaking up in these areas and standing strong together. It bothers me terribly that GOOD teachers are leaving because of all the nonsense. I can't blame them. You can love teaching and love children but if you're getting treated terribly by everyone why would you stick around?
MysteryTeacher is correct in teachers having to take on so much of the parents job. There are a lot of great families out there, but so many just leave everything up to the school. I remember speaking with one parent on the second day of second grade about their child not being able to spell his own name and that I was recommending retention. She told me that if I can't do my job better then that I better get a new job. When I looked astonished, she said well what did you expect me to pity you and help do YOUR job at home? Well I ain't gonna.
Now that is an extreme case, but there really are so many situations like that occurring and I really don't know how any teacher can be expected to do their jobs when they are dealing with this and so much more everyday.